Man's Search for Meaning
By Ilka Bezuidenhout
Research indicates that people in modern society often experience emptiness within themselves and they search for something or someone to fill this emptiness. The uncertain economic environment, high unemployment rate, high divorce rate and increased pressure to succeed are a few factors that lead to increased anxiety and stress. In my practice, teenagers and adults often express their struggle to feel motivated and content in why and what they do in life.
Teenagers in therapy will express how difficult they find having clear goals about their future. Instead of feeling hopeful, they feel media and educational institutions warn them about how increasingly limited their options have become. Some will even express that they feel their future is ‘doomed’. When listening to them one can understand why there has been an increase in depression and anxiety amongst teenagers.
Adults, too, often feel torn. On the one hand, they experience anxiety related to the importance of financial security. On the other, they yearn to experience real meaning in their careers. However, the risk to change is higher than in the past. This often results, in adults feeling stuck and unhappy in their work environments.
Although I have experienced an increase in depression and anxiety in my clients throughout the last decade, I have also seen how people have an inherent and primal need to search for happiness and meaning.
People explore various avenues to arrive at meaning in life. They read more self-help books, attend workshops, enter therapy or go to a life coach to develop their skills as parents and spouses etc.
Companies are also focusing more on supporting their employees well-being and developing their managerial skills.
People use the Internet to research and read about practical ways to change their environments, relationships and personal growth. They spend this time in search for development, hope, happiness and most of all, meaning.
When recently asked by one of my teenage clients whether I will choose the same career I came to the following conclusion: I am blessed to be a witness to someone’s struggles, moments of happiness and search for meaning and this becomes one of the ways I find meaning in my life.
KEYS FOR GETTING WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE
By Nido R. Quebein
1. Develop a positive mental attitude. Control your attitude and you will control your habits. Control your habits and you will control your life.
2. Manage your time and you manage your most valuable asset.
3. Plan your life and work your plan. Those people who really achieve their goals are the ones who have set their goals carefully, have developed their strategies realistically and followed their plans carefully.
4. Utilize all of the resources available to you. Many of us overlook many of the resources that are available to us every day.
5. Take time out to smell the roses. You may have a rose for only a day, but a rose a day is enough. People need rest and diversion. People who take planned breaks are more efficient.
6. Cherish family and friends. One of the most valuable goals any person can set is to cultivate those relationships that will make life seem worthwhile.
7. Meet adversity with courage, faith and hope. Problems are nothing more than opportunities or stepping stones on the road to your goals.
8. Cultivate self-respect and you will be respected by others. The most valuable commodity in the world of trade has always been personal integrity and honesty.
9. The greatest freedom in the life is self-determination. Greet every morning with the following resolution:
This is my life – I will take it and I will make it worthwhile!
Anthony Robbins Ultimate Success Formula
1. Decide what you want (Be precise! Clarity is power)
2. Take action (because desire is not enough)
3. Notice what’s working or not. (You don’t want to continue to expend energy on an approach that’s not giving you the results you want)
4. Change your approach until you achieve what you want. (Flexibility gives you the power to create a new approach and a new result).